About a month ago, I did something pretty unheard of these days.
I deleted the Facebook app from my phone.
I didn’t delete my profile completely, I just took away my ability to access it so quickly and easily.
And you know what is so surprising? How much I went to access it, and yet how much I didn’t miss it. It was totally habit that made me pick up my phone. I’d find myself picking up my phone and then looking at it and thinking, “There’s nothing I need this for right now.”
And can you believe it? The world kept turning!
I didn’t miss it like I thought I would. It was actually kind of freeing.
There were no political opinions to read, no drama to follow, no pictures of someone’s dinner to ponder aimlessly. It was so nice to miss the very vague, leading and passive aggressive status update by people looking to start some drama on a Thursday afternoon.
And don’t EVEN get me started on the selfies. Oh the selfies!
Apparently, I also missed a supposedly unedited shot of Kim Kardashian’s bare behind, and to that I say…
HALLELUJAH and PRAISE JESUS!
Can I get an amen?
But then I realized something else.
I was missing some parts of Facebook that I really enjoyed, and that really challenged me.
When I’m finally sitting down at the park with a few minutes to myself, I like to use a few minutes of that time to catch up with some great friends. The reality of being a stay-at-home mom is that I could potentially go all day with only saying a few sentences to someone over the age of 5. In the middle of my day, my sweet friend Jamie posts the most hilarious things about her day that make me feel like I’m not alone in the trenches.
When I’m laying my head down at the end of the day, feeling discontent or with an attitude of ingratitude, I am quickly brought back to reality by reading a post from Made in A Free World, an organization that I follow that is “disrupting the business of slavery and making freedom go viral”. If you haven’t heard of them, please click their name and follow them. They will change your perspective on life. I promise.
When I need some humor or a dose of common sense in the midst of all the selfies and dinner pictures, I turn to Mike Rowe (seriously, follow him – he’s way more than Dirty Jobs). His way of viewing the world is amazing. He has already influenced so much of how I try to raise my Spartans. P.S. Did you know that he sings opera and started singing in a barbershop quartet? Serious.
My moms group is a great place to be connected to other moms. It’s not unusual to see three or four posts a day from moms asking for prayer, updating us all on their major events in their lives, or setting up playdates. It’s a huge way to stay connected with the moms that I see on a regular basis, and is a way for us all to stay connected in our busy, tough, sometimes lonely lives.
I enjoy seeing pictures of the kids of my long-lost friends. I love seeing wedding pictures and encouraging stories from people overcoming odds or being decent human beings. I am so glad that it keeps me connected to my friends and family that are scattered all over the country.
So that brings me to what I’m getting at today.
I downloaded the app again. I’m back on Facebook, but with modifications. And a request from you.
When I started this blog, I wanted it to be a place to connect and to be honest and vulnerable. A place that was fun and safe and authentic. I wanted us to meet each other right where we are and saying, “Let’s just start right here. In this place. Let’s not wait until we’re in a prettier spot, or a happier spot, or a more convenient spot. I see you, and I want to be in this with you. With Jesus. Right here.”
A friend of mine observed a while ago that he was a “selfish Facebooker.” He said that he doesn’t really get on to see what’s going on in someone else’s life, but just to post about his stuff.
I feel like, as a blogger, I’ve been a selfish Facebooker.
Well, no more.
Let’s start connecting. Let’s use this place, the Facebook page, and whatever other social media to do just that – BE SOCIAL.
I’m going to start today. With this post.
So here’s how we’ll start:
I will post this on Facebook, and my challenge to you is to answer a question in the comments of the post. Then share if you feel like it, and let’s start a conversation.
I’m also going to post this to Twitter. If you’d like to follow me, I’d love to tweet with you. I’m new to Twitter. I’ve actually never talked about it as much as I have in the last three sentences. But let’s do it. I’m jumping in with both feet.
I have one request.
Please be respectful. This is supposed to be a safe place. A place where we can let our guards down, ask questions, receive advice, or share funny stories.
I’m super sure of what I believe politically and spiritually. I have strong opinions about a lot of things, actually.
But let’s keep love in the middle of it.
If you wouldn’t tell Jesus what you’re about to tell the rest of us, let’s agree it’s best not to say it?
So here are the questions for today. They’re easy, silly, and a good start.
Answer them in the comments here, on Facebook, or when you retweet it on Twitter.
If you could take a vacation with unlimited funds for two weeks, where would you go? What would you see? How would you get there/get around? What food would you eat? Who would you take with you?