Well, school has started again this week for us! This time, Aidan gets to go! They both love Miss Becky so much and it’s so fun to watch them learn new things from her. She’s truly amazing, and we are so blessed that she is in our lives!
With school starting comes the need for a renewed commitment to routine. We’re starting to go to bed earlier and get up earlier. The boys are beginning to get comfortable with the flow of the day. The biggest change is that we’ve switched up the routine before bedtime.
The boys helped us determine the routine. We asked them what they wanted to do before bedtime that would help them wind down at the end of the day. Now we have dinner, get to play for about an hour, and then bathe and sit down as a family for a bedtime snack at the dinner table (the snack was not my first choice, but so far, it’s actually worked pretty well). This is where we read books and read a Bible story together.
Recently, I’ve added a new question to the family time.
“How did you help someone today?”
The answer can be big or small. It can be a member of the family, a stranger at the park, a friend — anyone. We have a catch phrase at our church. “There’s more to life than me.” It’s so important to me that my boys learn to help others and think outside of themselves.
In my quest to raise my sons into Spartans who give themselves up for a cause greater than themselves, I want them to look around them and learn to see people in need. Sometimes it’s not a dire need, and sometimes it is. I just want them to learn to recognize what it looks like to need something. More importantly, I want them to want to make every effort to meet as many of those needs as possible.
There are only two things that Jesus asks of us: to love Him, and to love people. Beyond that, nothing else matters. Within that, everything matters. Loving people means knowing that they aren’t perfect, and loving them anyway. For my tender-hearted 3- and 4-year old children, this is best shown by helping.
For the most part, Aidan’s helping has been helping Noah. But Noah’s help has been all over the place. And I love it! Yesterday was his most heart-warming answer yet. He helped who he considers to be “his enemy” (as much as a 4-year old can have an enemy). What he gave was a significant help in their little world. WOW. Now that is being Jesus.
This question has taught me so much in the short time we have been asking it. It’s taught me to look around me and see more than just the help that I need (and Lord knows I need it!). I’m looking at people differently. And I’m so glad to see that it’s changing the way that my children look at people now, too.
Our new family question won’t ever stop being asked in my house. I pray that the answers grow bigger and more significant every day as we all learn to love the people around us more and more every day.
What’s a way that you’ve helped someone today (or recently)? Has someone helped you?
Leave me a comment – I want to hear about it!