In the Face of Loss

In the Face of Loss

This post today is going to be rambling because my thoughts are so jumbled and I’m having a hard time thinking clearly today.

Yesterday, some friends of ours that we used to go to church with lost their 2-year old son suddenly.

You guys, I’m a little lost.

Loss like that radiates for miles.

The epicenter of the loss is catastrophic. It’s monumental, and the destruction is all but total.

The closer you are to the epicenter, the more radically you are shaken.

But the community at large can also feel the loss, and the ripples of it spread far and wide.

Questions come.

Why? How? Now what? What if?

I was in the car today, driving home from dropping my kids off at school.

The song “Word of God Speak” by MercyMe came on the radio.

With tears streaming down my cheeks, I felt the words resonate with my soul.

“I’m finding myself at a loss for words.”

Oh! There are no words for this kind of loss.

It’s a testing of my faith to stand witness to a mother’s grieving, even from afar.

It strengthens my resolve to love completely and recklessly.

It spurs me on to a life of boldness and community.

In the face of loss of this magnitude, there are no words of comfort. There are no words of explanation. No words of upside.

Many of you who read this blog know the family for whom this loss is a reality.

You’re reeling from this as much as I am, and maybe more.

Let us all please remember that what this family needs more than ever are not our words.

No explanations, platitudes, well-meaning sayings.

God did NOT need an angel so he took this sweet boy.

There are no explanations that any of us can conjure that will make any sense, so please let us not try.

What a family experiencing loss needs now, more than ever, is our love. Unconditionally, and most often, practically, and silently.




A shoulder to cry on.


Let us stand together, shoulder to shoulder, and love this family.

Let us say to them:

“We see you. We see your pain and your loss, and we stand here with you. We stand in the emptiness with you, ready to be the hands and feet of Jesus for you. We will hold you up and fold you in our love and the love of Jesus.”

Today is a hard day, and there are many more to come for this community as this loss is processed and walked through.

I pray that we will all be present in this loss, letting God speak.

I pray we will rest in His holiness today.

Word of God Speak


Mary Jean

about 5 years ago

No words. Just tears.


Hayley Schraufnagel

about 5 years ago

I agree.



about 5 years ago

So so sorry and so so sad.



about 5 years ago

So, I just read this today. Because I didnt even have time the past w weeks to read much besides necessities. And I am in tears thinking of 2 weeks ago. And how much it still hurts. But also how SO MANY people did all those things you listed! And how much those things will be needed still for a long time. To not forget that as each day goes on, their heart hurts even more from missing him so much.



about 5 years ago

Oops wasnt done! THANK YOU to the communty, and mosyly the Body of Christ for being absolutely beautiful.


Hayley Schraufnagel

about 5 years ago

Robin, it was amazing wasn't it? It's a beautiful thing when the church acts like Jesus! Thank YOU for being Jesus in such a hard time for them. You are a blessing beyond measure!


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